5 Easy Steps For Winning Back Your Ex

06 Aug 2009

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Happily tiedSmallThe Magic of Making Up, a book written by T. “Dub” Jackson, sheds light upon strategies on how you can begin winning back your ex if the two of you have broken up. Five steps, in particular, bear a notable mention, because they represent the basic outline for a plan to rekindle the flames of a love gone wrong.

First, communicate with your ex-girlfriend in a casual, non-threatening manner. The point is to keep you in her life in a very subtle way. Do not play hard to get and ignore her; this may give her ample opportunity to completely walk away, without giving you a second thought. Instead, let her know that you are around in a friendly way.

Second, send an occasion, light email. The methods that you choose for communication should be partially on the distant side. Stick with higher tech methods such as computer email, instant messaging, and/or cell phone texting. No heavy topics; no emotional poetry. Send quick friendly messages with light subject matter.

Third, if you absolutely know that you’re interested in winning back your ex and there is no other love out there for you, DO NOT see other women. Please do not even waste your time. If you did, she would see right through the game that you are playing and she might decide, once and for all, that you are too immature for her.

Fourth, be kind and thoughtful. Remember the important events in your ex-girlfriend’s life: her birthday, your (former) anniversary, her graduation, a new job, etc. Send her cards for these occasions to let her know how kind you are to remember. She will see that you are thinking of her, and your genuine interest in her is what will help you win your ex-girlfriend back.

Fifth, when some time has passed, and you have kept in touch with her on a casual level, you should give her an occasional telephone call. Catch up on old times; catch up on what’s happening in your life now. Give her an “in” into your life, so that she does not have to hear rumors and wonder if such things are true. If she communicates with you, your chances of winning your ex-girlfriend back are greatly increased. Do not remain a mystery to her. Open up.

The most important step is to keep in touch with her. Wait until you have had time to simmer your emotions down a notch or two before you begin communication with her. You most definitely do not want to scare her away. You will want to exude the near-perfect balance between self-confidence and tender loving care.

All breakups are different, so there is no one surefire method to winning back your ex. You will need to do a bit of trial and error, and you will need to customize the process for your specific situation. One thing is positive, however. You will never win her back if you do not at least give it a try.

Try the Magic of Making Up if you’re serious about winning back your ex.

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Get Your Ex Back After An Affair – Restore Trust In Your Relationship

14 Sep 2009

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Holding handsXSmallAfter the Affair is Over – Can You Forgive?

To forgive, or to be forgiven, neither one is easy. More often than not an affair is the end of a relationship, but it does not have to be. Of course there are times when it should end, but there are times when the relationship should be resurrected and allowed to continue.

Trust is a delicate matter. There is really no way to prove that you are trustworthy other than to live that way. Over time people understand that they can trust you. What takes years to establish can be destroyed in a matter of minutes, or so it seems.

The fact that you had an affair in the first place indicates that there was something lacking in your relationship in the first place. So not only will you have to reestablish that you are indeed trustworthy, but you will have to repair whatever was broken with your relationship in the first place. Otherwise you will just find yourself in the same predicament once again

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So before you even try to redeem yourself take a minute to figure out what was missing from your world before you took your misstep. Obviously you were unhappy for some reason. Was sex boring? Was she busy? Was she unkempt? Were you looking for a way out of your relationship? Be clear before you try to repair your relationship, because if you strayed as a way of ending your relationship then you will just be traveling in a crazy circle.

The Two Questions You Want to Ask Yourself

So the two questions that you need to answer for yourself are, what was broken, and what do I need to do to fix it? Then you will know how much of the problem you have control over and how much belongs to your girlfriend.

As you begin to work on the underlying problem, it will give you time to rebuild your trustworthiness. Repairing your relationship may involve counseling. It will certainly involve conversation, and it will probably involve compromise on everybody’s part. You can start by keeping your word every time no matter how small the promise that you make is. If you promise to walk the dog every morning, then you better be outside with a dog on the leash before your girlfriend has a chance to remind you. You want to be consistent and proactive. This type of behavior will go a long way towards reestablishing the trust that you lost.

Understandably your girlfriend will need to hear that you are sincere. She will see that you are doing all of the right things, but you need to tell her that you intend to continue to do the right things as well. When she sees you behaving well and hears your intentions to continue behaving well you give her the opportunity to forgive you. Be patient. You are asking for a big thing here, so give her time to get there.

This does not mean that you walk around apologizing all of the time, but when you can tell that she is feeling a little insecure, and maybe even rightfully so, it is your job to allay her fears and let her know that everything will be fine.

Working to save this relationship may be the hardest thing that you have ever done in your life. But if you can pull it off, it will be one of the most rewarding things in your life as well.

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Winning Back Your Ex Even If He Wants More Space

12 Aug 2009

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Regardless of his reasons for telling you that he wants more space, your first outward reaction should be one of respecting his wishes. Deep inside you may feel upset, confused and rather emotional. If you are hurting because you truly love this man, you will respect him by giving him his space initially. You’re lucky, in reality, because he doesn’t want to break things off for good at this point. So don’t give him reason to do that and you’ve got the best opportunity for winning back your ex.

Author of The Magic of Making Up, T. “Dub” Jackson, gives readers a step-by-step program to rekindle the flames of a love once thought of as lost. The following tips culled from his book are particularly noteworthy.

  1. You may not want to lose any pride, but worse, you don’t want to lose his love altogether. Give him his room to breathe. Play a little bit hard to get. At first, don’t always be there for him if he calls. Keep yourself busy with other friends and activities and he may come to the conclusion that he desires you more than ever.

  2. If you know that your ex-boyfriend still feels love for you, you should communicate with him on a platonic level. Friendship is the virtue that has staying power. Communicate in short, sweet and kind messages through brief telephone conversations, text messages and email. Invite him to go out with a group of friends to an event in which he has a major interest. Through this method of keeping in touch, he will remember how much fun he experienced with you in the beginning. Don’t overwhelm him and he may realize how much he wants to be a part of your life again.
  3. When he seems ready to get a bit closer to you, on a different level, this is the time to reminisce about how much fun you had with past experiences. Remember the good times and laugh … a lot. Avoid the negative experiences. If a negative experience surfaces, show him that you’re a well-adjusted woman and that you’ve learned how to let things go. Life is too short to focus on the negative. 
  4. If your ex-boyfriend becomes more distant to you, then you must give him his space. Tell him you want to be friends. Tell him you think that spending a significant portion of your life together meant something to you and a friendship is better than no relationship at all. The space that your ex-boyfriend desires can be a learning experience for you too. You’ll have the space to see things from a distance, which may give you insight into the relationship that you did not gain prior. 
  5. If, indeed, your ex-boyfriend is beginning to show that he cares deeply again, share with him how you feel. Talk openly and candidly, but avoid desperation and over-the-top emotion. Show him how well-grounded and mature you’ve become. If his body language and mannerisms prove that he still needs space, give it to him in a friendly way and allow a more natural movement for the rekindling of love to occur. 

Space in a relationship can be a breath of fresh air for both parties. Taking the time to step back and gain insight is very healthy. It is NOT the end of the world, or the relationship. Leave the door open for a lasting friendship, and true love may be returned to you.  

When you’re ready to get all the details of winning back your ex then go check out T. “Dub” Jackson’s book The Magic of Making Up.


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Winning Back Your Ex Can Be Easy

09 Aug 2009

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