Get Your Ex Back Fast

Regardless of his reasons for telling you that he wants more space, your first outward reaction should be one of respecting his wishes. Deep inside you may feel upset, confused and rather emotional. If you are hurting because you truly love this man, you will respect him by giving him his space initially. You’re lucky, in reality, because he doesn’t want to break things off for good at this point. So don’t give him reason to do that and you’ve got the best opportunity for winning back your ex.

Author of The Magic of Making Up, T. “Dub” Jackson, gives readers a step-by-step program to rekindle the flames of a love once thought of as lost. The following tips culled from his book are particularly noteworthy.

1. You may not want to lose any pride, but worse, you don’t want to lose his love altogether. Give him his room to breathe. Play a little bit hard to get. At first, don’t always be there for him if he calls. Keep yourself busy with other friends and activities and he may come to the conclusion that he desires you more than ever.

2. If you know that your ex-boyfriend still feels love for you, you should communicate with him on a platonic level. Friendship is the virtue that has staying power. Communicate in short, sweet and kind messages through brief telephone conversations, text messages and email. Invite him to go out with a group of friends to an event in which he has a major interest. Through this method of keeping in touch, he will remember how much fun he experienced with you in the beginning. Don’t overwhelm him and he may realize how much he wants to be a part of your life again.
3. When he seems ready to get a bit closer to you, on a different level, this is the time to reminisce about how much fun you had with past experiences. Remember the good times and laugh … a lot. Avoid the negative experiences. If a negative experience surfaces, show him that you’re a well-adjusted woman and that you’ve learned how to let things go. Life is too short to focus on the negative. 
4. If your ex-boyfriend becomes more distant to you, then you must give him his space. Tell him you want to be friends. Tell him you think that spending a significant portion of your life together meant something to you and a friendship is better than no relationship at all. The space that your ex-boyfriend desires can be a learning experience for you too. You’ll have the space to see things from a distance, which may give you insight into the relationship that you did not gain prior. 
5. If, indeed, your ex-boyfriend is beginning to show that he cares deeply again, share with him how you feel. Talk openly and candidly, but avoid desperation and over-the-top emotion. Show him how well-grounded and mature you’ve become. If his body language and mannerisms prove that he still needs space, give it to him in a friendly way and allow a more natural movement for the rekindling of love to occur. 

Space in a relationship can be a breath of fresh air for both parties. Taking the time to step back and gain insight is very healthy. It is NOT the end of the world, or the relationship. Leave the door open for a lasting friendship, and true love may be returned to you.  

When you’re ready to get all the details of winning back your ex then go check out T. “Dub” Jackson’s book The Magic of Making Up.