5 Easy Steps For Winning Back Your Ex
06 Aug 2009
The Magic of Making Up, a book written by T. “Dub” Jackson, sheds light upon strategies on how you can begin winning back your ex if the two of you have broken up. Five steps, in particular, bear a notable mention, because they represent the basic outline for a plan to rekindle the flames of a love gone wrong.
First, communicate with your ex-girlfriend in a casual, non-threatening manner. The point is to keep you in her life in a very subtle way. Do not play hard to get and ignore her; this may give her ample opportunity to completely walk away, without giving you a second thought. Instead, let her know that you are around in a friendly way.
Second, send an occasion, light email. The methods that you choose for communication should be partially on the distant side. Stick with higher tech methods such as computer email, instant messaging, and/or cell phone texting. No heavy topics; no emotional poetry. Send quick friendly messages with light subject matter.
Third, if you absolutely know that you’re interested in winning back your ex and there is no other love out there for you, DO NOT see other women. Please do not even waste your time. If you did, she would see right through the game that you are playing and she might decide, once and for all, that you are too immature for her.
Fourth, be kind and thoughtful. Remember the important events in your ex-girlfriend’s life: her birthday, your (former) anniversary, her graduation, a new job, etc. Send her cards for these occasions to let her know how kind you are to remember. She will see that you are thinking of her, and your genuine interest in her is what will help you win your ex-girlfriend back.
Fifth, when some time has passed, and you have kept in touch with her on a casual level, you should give her an occasional telephone call. Catch up on old times; catch up on what’s happening in your life now. Give her an “in” into your life, so that she does not have to hear rumors and wonder if such things are true. If she communicates with you, your chances of winning your ex-girlfriend back are greatly increased. Do not remain a mystery to her. Open up.
The most important step is to keep in touch with her. Wait until you have had time to simmer your emotions down a notch or two before you begin communication with her. You most definitely do not want to scare her away. You will want to exude the near-perfect balance between self-confidence and tender loving care.
All breakups are different, so there is no one surefire method to winning back your ex. You will need to do a bit of trial and error, and you will need to customize the process for your specific situation. One thing is positive, however. You will never win her back if you do not at least give it a try.
Try the Magic of Making Up if you’re serious about winning back your ex.